Due to the energies that have been stirred up with COVID-19 our finances and our relationships have been challenged greatly. The next five weeks will invite many aspects of our personal relationships, especially romantic, under the microscope for review.
Let that sink in for a minute - do you really want to keep those patterns? Do you want to keep that programming of “I'm going to place a judgment on you because I see you doing this” and “apparently you're that way, so I'm just going to decide that’s just the way that person is?
When two people argue, it is easy to see what the other person did wrong. It is much harder to look within and see the part you played in the situation. It is also much more helpful. You can choose how much you will allow the behavior of others to affect you, but you can't change their behavior. You can, however, change your behavior. Ask yourself, "What did I do that was not loving, kind or helpful?" However small the behavior change you make, it is powerful. One tiny tweak to your actions and attitude will shift your energy much more than all of the observation of the other person's misbehavior. Owning your part of the problem shows integrity, courage...
We all live in a very personal version of a larger, shared reality. Because of that, what seems obvious to you might escape the attention of another. Do not rush, to judge and label the person. There are things about you that mystify others, as well. Would you want to be judged as mean when […]